How to Talk to Your Kids About Moving to a Senior Community

Even within the most open and forthcoming families, having a family conversation about aging can be difficult. That’s often because your adult children don’t want to think about life without you. While you’ve likely faced your own parents’ aging journeys and understand firsthand the importance of having a plan — and making sure your children know your wishes for the future — they may need a little grace. But in time, they’ll come around.

Let’s look at how to talk to your kids about senior living and the best ways to share your plans and wishes for the future.

Talking To Your Adult Children About Retirement Living

1. Start the conversation early and revisit it often.

When you start considering a move to a senior living community, begin discussing it with your family. Big decisions take time. By bringing it up early and often, you show your family that you’re serious and have thoughtfully considered your options.

• Start the conversation while you’re still healthy and actively involved in the decision-making process.
• Be prepared for ongoing discussions, as your needs and preferences may evolve.
• If one child raises specific concerns, consider having a one-on-one conversation with them before addressing the whole family.

2. Explain senior living simply and positively.

Think back to what you believed about senior living before you began your research — your children may share the same initial misconceptions.

• Describe senior living as a vibrant community where people enjoy social activities, focus on their health and wellness, travel, and pursue personal interests. It’s also a place where care and support are easily accessible, if ever needed.
• Highlight the benefits, such as fewer household chores, engaging activities, and more opportunities for socialization.
• Emphasize that senior living enhances your independence and quality of life by reducing the burden of home upkeep and offering a practical plan for any future “what ifs.”
• Point out the social, recreational, and health benefits of community living.
• Explain that senior living also reduces stress and responsibility for family members.

3. Involve your children in the process.

Making the move will feel easier when your children feel involved. They may be wondering about things like preparing their parents for a retirement move

• Share your thoughts, concerns, and preferences for living arrangements and the level of support you want.
• Invite them to join you on tours of communities that interest you.
• Ask for their input when choosing between communities, or for help with downsizing and moving.
• Encourage them to express their feelings and concerns about your move. You may be surprised to learn that they’re excited for you or relieved that you’re taking control of your future.

4. Acknowledge and validate their feelings.

The most important thing you can do is keep the conversation going — even if it feels uncomfortable. If a discussion becomes too emotional, pause and return to it later, but don’t avoid the topic altogether.

• Understand that your children may feel emotional about the idea of you selling their childhood home and moving to a senior living community.
• Validate their feelings and let them know it’s okay to feel sadness or concern about the transition.
• Reassure them that you are making this decision to improve your well-being and quality of life—and that this choice will allow you to be more present and available to spend time with them and your grandchildren.

Bring the Family to Learn More About Vista Point

For some, choosing a senior living community is a family decision. It may help to have your loved ones learn right alongside you. As you explore Vista Point at Fairview, consider sharing our website and other educational resources with them. If it feels right, invite them to join you for a tour or one of our informational meetings.

As the only nonprofit Life Plan senior living community in Southeastern Connecticut that combines a vibrant lifestyle with breathtaking waterfront views, we’re creating a place where you can continue making cherished memories with those you love.

To learn more, call (860) 968-VIEW (8439) or contact us here.